Since the 1960s, psychology has grown progressively more female-oriented. Today, about 80% of psychologists are female, and about 80% of students who study psychology are female as well- and the majority of both groups are feminist. Although feminist academics hail this as a success, the result has been catastrophic: Mental health in America today is a disaster, with skyrocketing rates of most disorders, not to mention the somehow spontaneous self-formation of many disorders that never existed at all in the past.
Clearly, something has gone wrong.
However, the answer to the question, “What went wrong?” is not so complex as one might believe: We human beings are designed to function optimally in a very specific environment, and one structured in accord with the human condition. This system of psychological structures, which I generally refer to as the classical tradition, presumes at the very least the pursuit of truth; the veneration of the natural family; respect for sex-differentiated behavioral patters; hierarchy; competition; a call to live with virtue, love, and sacrifice; a faith in the natural order of things; some method for contextualizing death; and the spiritualization of reality in religious terms. These have existed in some way, shape, or form in every culture that has ever existed, and every culture that has ever abandoned them has collapsed.
But back to the feminist revolution…
Feminism is Marxism with a vagina, and at the very root of Marxism is vengefulness against the classical tradition, against whatever is strong, fearless, beautiful, lofty, lonely, or noble-spirited. The goal of Marxism is to tear down the old order; the goal of feminism is precisely the same, but by different means: While Marxism is philosophical, feminism is psychological; while Marxism wages war upon the system, feminism wages war upon the spirit. And this is why psychological health and well-being are such a disaster today: Because Marxism has accomplished through feminism the destruction of the classical tradition at the organic level, at the level of the human being.
Psychology has thus poisoned the human being by waging war against all the old notions of how the world ought to be structured. And as a result, we have destroyed the very environment in which we were designed to flourish, which has in turn resulted in the generational sickening of the human being- with all the social ills that come along with it: crime, gang violence, drug and alcohol addiction, and so forth.
But what can be done about it?
A problem cannot be solved via the same means by which it was created. And so there is no going forward without first going back. The path we have been led down for the better part of a century now ends in our mutually-assured self-destruction; our only salvation lies in the resurrection of the old way. We must return to an older, bolder, stronger psychology; we must rebuild our humanity from the ground up.
The old way is the only way, and that is Virilis.
~ Joshua van Asakinda
Fredrick Douglass once wrote that, "It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men." And he was most certainly correct. But what is to be done when decades of wrong-headed social policy have already destroyed multiple generations of boys? Well, then we have to do the hard work, and for that, we have to be willing to get dirty.
For the first several thousand years of human civilization, the work of transforming a boy into a man was accomplished almost instinctually via rights of passage: The boy was taught, and molded through trial and tribulation, and given challenges to surmount, and only then was he granted the privilege of being a man among men- of marrying, of bearing children, of fighting alongside his brothers, and of taking up the mantle of leadership. The long journey from boyhood to manhood- and through manhood to death- was in a sense systemized according to the dictates of masculine psychology. And so if we are to recover what has been lost, the most logical course of action would be to retrace the steps of our fathers and grandfathers. We must resurrect consciously what our ancestors lived unconsciously: a heroic mode of life.
But how is this accomplished?
"We laugh at honor, and are shocked to find traitors in our midst.
We castrate, and bid the geldings be fruitful."
~ C.S. Lewis
Essentially, boys require four things in order to develop into men:
We will discuss each in turn:
Why a Boy Requires a Father
We learn what it is to be a man not so much through education but through emulation. And it is for this reason that single-motherhood has such a disastrous effect on young male psychology: No matter how good a single mother may be, she cannot provide for a boy an image of what a man ought to be. In other words, he can be educated by her, but he cannot emulate her in the hope of becoming a man- and it is emulation that matters most. For this reason among others, a father is needed, or in his absence, a surrogate father figure- a coach, a pastor, a grandfather, etc.
Why a Boy Requires a Tribal Community
Healthy human psychology cannot be understood or expected but in a social context: We are social creatures; we require a social context in order to flourish. And this social context is essentially tribalistic in character- that is, it is characterized by ingroup/outgroup dynamics, it is limited in size and scope, and it entails a certain degree of cultural homogeneity. Stated simply, we are designed to develop extremely intimate relationships with a relatively small group of individuals with whom we share values, and to do so for an objective purpose. When we are denied our tribal community, however, we become psychologically unsound, and it should be of no surprise to anyone that westernized, multicultural societies show far higher rates of a number of psychiatric disorders, especially in the case of men.
Why a Boy Requires a Path of Virtue
Tribalism, of course, has a dark side, as does masculinity in general. While identification with a tribe is necessary in order to create a sense of social connection- which is itself rooted in the mother principle-, a path of virtue is needed in order for the boy to grow stronger enough to control himself and his passions, which can quickly become destructive if not disciplined properly. An unbroken horse is useless to mankind, and the case is no different with men. Without a path of virtue and the self-discipline that comes with it, a man remains a boy psychologically speaking in spite of the fact that his power continues to increase- a very dangerous situation, indeed.
Why a Boy Requires a Meaning for Their Sacrifice
Male psychology is oriented towards two functions, generally speaking: leadership and protection. Both of these are inherently dangerous, however, and entail a natural willingness towards self-sacrifice- but only when that self-sacrifice has a greater meaning. When a greater meaning is removed- "God and country," for instance-, that natural willingness towards self-sacrifice can turn nihilistic: A man may ask himself, "Why bother?" Then, without a tribal community, without a path of virtue, without a meaning for their sacrifice, the man is left alone and unguided not only from others but from his own identity as a man and as a human being.
We often ask ourselves in America, where mass shootings have become frighteningly common, what can be done about it. And I would submit that teaching boys what manhood really is- and thus preventing them from finding themselves alienated from their own masculinity-, would be an excellent place to start.
~ Joshua van Asakinda
There are two ways, fundamentally, for manhood to go wrong (incidentally, there are two ways, fundamentally, for womanhood to go wrong as well, which essentially mirror the paths enumerated here):
This is not at all to say that men should, in the first case, "get in touch with their feminine side," which really has nothing to do with this, nor that traditional manhood is, in the second case, in any way "toxic," "poisonous," or "dysfunctional," which is nonsensical gibberish anyhow. What it is saying is that manhood requires not only a full and total expression of self, but also that it requires boundaries. Boys raised without a healthy conception of masculinity can quickly lose themselves in their mother's influence so that their masculinity never develops at all, or they can just as quickly go off the rails without a healthy male figure to emulate, thus becoming violent, and without a sense of belonging to their own community. And so it is the absence of the father in either case that is the source of their troubles, either in the form of total submission to the mother and consequent suffocation of one's masculinity, or in the form of radical rebellion against the grounding influence of the mother in favor of a distorted self-representation of the absent father.
Too often, boys raised without fathers find themselves forced to choose between being non-men and bad men. And that is a choice without a winning outcome, wherein they lose no matter what their decision. Given the choice, the stronger-willed boys will almost always choose being bad men over being non-men while the weaker-willed boys will almost always choose being non-men over being bad men. But their manhood is destroyed in either case, which dooms them all to an unhealthy and self-destructive conception of their own masculinity.
And this is truly "toxic," but it is toxic because of the absence of traditional masculinity rather than its excess. Most of these boys were raised by women; they were taught by women. Virtually all of their role models were female- save in film, music, and so forth, from which they derive a mental image of manhood that is little more than caricature. They were raised with ever knowing a healthy father figure, and so how can their masculinity be at fault? Clearly, those who wish to condemn manhood for their situation have not thought very hard about the subject.
Considering the depth of thought- or rather the lack thereof- prevalent in feminist circles, that is to be expected. But the question really is what can be done about it?
~ Joshua van Asakinda
We all fall down.
It may sound strange, but the full realization of this fundamental truth would solve probably half the problems we struggle with every day. Because most of our dissatisfaction with our lives surrounds a misunderstanding of reality: We think that our value as individuals derives from our success rather than from the meaning of the mission we dedicate ourselves to. When our mission has meaning, success is of secondary concern; when our mission is meaningful, we find fulfillment in the work rather than in whether or not the work is "successful." After all, who defines "success?"
Most of us never even consider what success really means to us- and that is another source of trouble...
Generally speaking, we all want fulfillment, but few of us ever stop to ask ourselves what fulfillment looks like. This would be like somebody asking us where we want to go, and we respond, "Somewhere nice." Well, wonderful, but that answer is useless in determining where specifically we should journey to. And in life, when we lack a definite destination, we tend to end up in all sorts of places we never intended to end up.
If we do not know what success looks like to us, we should not at all be surprised when we do not achieve it.
So how do we avoid this mistake? How do we avoid ending up somewhere we never intended to end up?
I have distilled the solution down to three steps:
Of course, theory and praxis are two very different things. Sometimes we need somebody to lead us through the problem because our closeness to it can mind us blind to the simplicity of its solution. But that is what ParaBellum was created for, after all.
~ Joshua van Asakinda
In the 1800s, Friedrich Nietzsche wrote a passage that has since become famous in which he proclaimed "the death of God." Although he is generally condemned for the assertion, people generally misunderstand his point; for Nietzsche, the death of God was not a celebration of a theological event but a lamentation over a historical event. Faith in God was dead, and the consequences were, for Nietzsche, horrifying:
Have you not heard of that madman who lit a lantern in the bright morning hours, ran to the market place, and cried incessantly: "I seek God! I seek God!" -- As many of those who did not believe in God were standing around just then, he provoked much laughter. Has he got lost? asked one. Did he lose his way like a child? asked another. Or is he hiding? Is he afraid of us? Has he gone on a voyage? emigrated? -- Thus they yelled and laughed.
The Gay Science
~ Friedrich Nietzsche
Nietzsche's realization was obvious enough: The death of God would be catastrophic. For most of human history, faith in God- called by whatever name- had been central to everyday existence: God created the world; God set the laws of nature in motion; God determined right and wrong; God gave a moral context to human action, and therefore, a moral value to human action. And this pattern was universal: It was as much the case in Oriental cultures as in European cultures, and in every other culture as well. Moreover, much of the order we enjoy in the world today stems from a traditional worldview rooted in religion, again, called by whatever name.
However, all of that began to change in the 19th and 20th centuries when religious skepticism and philosophical nihilism began to sweet through Europe, and through European conquest, the rest of the world. This trend. largely the consequence of resentment towards old world power structures- and thus, towards the underlying religious foundation of old world power structures- began to rip the foundation of civilization out from under it. Slowly but surely, a system of human organization that had lasted for millennia began to decay. Nietzsche saw it before anybody else, and was rightly terrified.
The consequences, though complex and far-reaching, were simple enough in concept: When the concept of God was removed from society, so too would be a number of related concepts that human beings required in order to function with one another, such as virtue, love, and sacrifice. These concepts were so bound up in religion that the death of God was tantamount to the death of all these things- and then what would replace them? Nobody had an answer, because indeed nobody had asked the question yet. But soon enough, the world learned the truth as materialism rushed to take the place of God in the form of two competing systems: capitalism and communism.
Neither of these systems had a spiritual center. The result was that although both of these materialist systems grew in strength, the void at the center of the human being grew larger as well. We are a meaning-seeking species: Religion had given context to the human desire for meaning and mission- and now that context had begun to slowly fade into the background. Consequently, the world began to suffer from what Émile Durkheim referred to as anomie in his book Suicide, a condition of "derangement" and "insatiable will" resulting from social-moral upheaval and a subsequent sense of nihilism.
Today, we see something similar in the form of sky-rocketing rates of psychiatric disorders of any and all kinds, not to mention a number of related social ills- single-mother homes, drug and alcohol addiction, and mass incarceration, to name but a few. All of these social sicknesses, in some fashion or another, are influenced by anomie, and by a general lack of moral-religious context to human behavior. And that is in no way a defense of any particular moral-religious system; it is merely an acknowledgement of the research-supported fact that human beings are religious creatures. So really, there is only one solution to the problem: the revitalization of a sense of meaning and mission in the modern world.
There can be no greater message for those that feel lost, confused, or despondent: The path out of nihilism is the rekindling of purpose. When life has purpose, we can find our way; when life is left without purpose, we rarely bother- or we despair when our solutions continue to fail, which only perpetuates a vicious cycle of depression and self-destruction. But there is a way out of darkness: We must find our mission, and we must find a meaning that justifies that mission.
When our mission has been found, it justifies all our trials and tribulations: pain, hardship, suffering- we find redemption in it all. For the great mission gives them meaning; the great mission gives them purpose. Then we may be reborn from them, brighter and stronger than before.
There is no phoenix without the fire.
~ Joshua van Asakinda
The pursuit of fulfillment has been the focus of philosophy from the very beginning. It was Socrates who first argued that all men seek "happiness," though translation can be misleading. After all, the Greek word commonly translated as "happiness" is eudaemonia (εὐδαίμων), which literally means "nobility of spirit," and which is not at all the same meaning as the English word "happiness." We generally think of "happiness" in binary terms: "happiness" as opposed to "suffering." But this is not at all what Socrates was talking about.
And so it is for this reason that we will discuss fulfillment- a far more specific concept- rather than "happiness."
So, according to philosophers- or at least, those of the early Socratic tradition-, all men seek fulfillment. And at first glance, that may sound ridiculous. Was Hitler seeking "fulfillment?" Stalin seeking "fulfillment?" These are difficult questions. Because it is easier to believe that certain men are inherently evil than it is to believe that all men share in a singular humanity, however far they have wandered from it. How are we to believe that drug dealers and rapists and child sex traffickers are somehow seeking "fulfillment?"
For what it is worth, I am a Buddhist. A teacher once told me that within every individual- no matter how evil!- there is a seed of Awakening, what a Catholic might call the Imago Dei, the Image of God. As the Bible says, "So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him." (Genesis 1:27, KJV) And so although this seed- this Image of God- may be so deeply buried that it may never flourish, still there it is. So the question is not, "Do we all seek fulfillment?" We certainly do. No, the question is, "What is it that prevents us from realizing the fulfillment we all seek?"
How is it that some of us go so far astray?
There are two answers to this question, one religious and one practical. We will skim past the religious answer- not because it is not important but simply because this is not a blog about religion- and discuss the practical answer in depth. Still, the religious answer provides an excellent metaphor for the practical answer, and so its value cannot be overestimated.
And so, the religious answer:
The true nature within us is buried by craving, what in the Hindu-Buddhist tradition is referred to as klesa- that is, a "stain" or "defilement"- and what in the Judeo-Christian tradition is referred to as sin- that is, a kind of corruption, though the words in Hebrew and in Greek both literally mean "to miss the mark." In Buddhism, this occurs because of our cravings, what we might call the passions. And these cravings corrupt what is pure within us, and result in all of our happiness and suffering in this world. Because truth is ultimately beyond happiness and suffering; the truth is something else entirely.
And now, for the practical answer, which is two-fold:
First, although we all seek fulfillment, we are led astray by our cravings, by our passions- that is, by our attachments to material things. These attachments result in us being pulled in countless directions, and we find ourselves weak, confused, and despondent; we find ourselves distracted and fragmented. Tragically, no matter how much we satisfy these passions, they are never conquered; no matter how much we eat, or drink, still before long we find ourselves hungry, and thirsty- and that goes for every other material pleasure as well: money, glory, power. No matter the pleasure, the story is always the same, and its conclusion is always empty of meaning.
Furthermore, few of us really know ourselves. The axiom gnothi seauton (γνῶθι σεαυτόν) was written across the door at Delphi: "Know thyself." Few of us know ourselves, and so few of us really know what it is that really fulfills us, or what cravings hide within us that prevent us from realizing that fulfillment. In most cases, this lack of self-knowledge results in boredom, frustration, and nihilism; in some rare cases, however, it results in the kind of monsters discussed earlier. History has no shortage of examples illustrating the dangers of passion run amok.
And so the practical answer must address both of these problems: It must address the fixations that creep about in the subconscious mind, and it must address that most people really do not know themselves at all. Because it is when we do not know what we want that we fall prey to craving. We are a meaning-seeking species; without a positive goal, we will accept a negative goal. But we do require a goal. And that goal must give context to our lives as social creatures.
In fact, research has shown that even drug addiction is linked to a lack of meaning: Rats removed from their families will choose drugs over food, while rats allowed to remain with their families do not. This is why Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is so successful in spite of the modern psychological paradigm's lack of ability to explain its success. The fact is that we all desire purpose in our lives. And that is, ultimately, the secret to fulfillment: We all need a mission, and that mission needs to have a meaning beyond ourselves.
~ Joshua van Asakinda
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