[Note: This post is an analysis of MGTOW, and not an affirmation of its position. For a detailed explanation as to where I think MGTOW goes wrong (and it does), please see the follow-up post, which will be up in a few days.]
You may be asking yourself, "What is MGTOW?"
For those that are unaware, the acronym MGTOW means "Men Going Their Own Way." The MGTOW movement has recently begun to gain steam in the popular culture of men, and for reasons that are not entirely unjustified.
Put simply, the men of MGTOW believe the world has been so ruined by feminism, the game so leveraged against men in the modern world, that there is no longer any benefit to building personal relationships with women. In their defense, there is a laundry list a mile long of evidence in support of their notion that the feminist-influenced world we currently live in gives men a raw deal: Men drop out of school more often than women, have higher rates of drug and alcohol addiction than women, have far higher rates of gang involvement than women, are the victims of violence far more often than women, go to prison more often than women, suffer more from divorce than women, have far lower chances to win custody cases for their own children than women, have higher rates of homelessness than women, die on the job more often than women, commit suicide far more often than women, and yet still, in spite of all of this, men are, according to feminists, the victors rather than the victims, a gender of sexual predators underserving of praise and useful for nothing.
So the men of MGTOW have decided to- opt out.
"Why play the game if the game is rigged against us?" they reason.
[ A Google search analysis of the terms "MGTOW" and "How to get a girlfriend." ]
There is a logic to the argument.
As a result of this logic, more and more men are dropping out of the dating game entirely. Why bother, after all? So the men of MGTOW satisfy their carnal desires with pornography or prostitution, and go it alone insofar as relationships are concerned.
The problem with this scenario is that relationships are necessary for the mental health of both men and women. And when these relationships are distorted, or denied entirely, the result can be horrifying- again, for both men and women. However, because men are naturally more prone to physical violence (women are more naturally prone to non-physical violence- for instance manipulation- whether intellectual or emotional), the consequences can be especially destructive.
In fact, Elliot Roger, the 22 year old University of California Santa Barbara shooter whose 140 page "Manifesto" described his desire to "wage a war on women," is even admired in some MGTOW circles. And although his animosity towards involuntary celibacy (or, as MGTOWs call it, "incel") seems absurd, we must remember that the popularity of MGTOW is symptomatic of the rise of an essentially polygamous cultural situation wherein fewer and fewer men hoard access to women, who flock more and more frequently around men with more power, money, etc. Culturally speaking, this is disastrous: The murder rates in polygamous cultures is shockingly high, far higher than the murder rates of the vast majority of monogamous cultures.
The reason is as simple as it is banal: Men are prone to fight over women. The violent impulses typical of males evolved for three reasons- the hunting of animals, the slaughtering of other men of other tribes, and the subjugating of competitors within the tribe in the pursuit of females. And although feminists think of monogamy as a tool of patriarchal oppression, the fact is that monogamy reduces violence within society, and results in a better world for everybody.
The fact that men are abandoning the courting of women is disastrous not only at the personal level of mental health and wellbeing but also at the cultural level. For when men determine that the value of a relationship is limited to the merely sexual, they very often become exactly what feminists claim they are- violent, vicious, and unworthy of command. So although the MGTOW movement is very much correct in assessing the problem, it errs radically in providing a solution to that problem, like a doctor that has correctly diagnosed the disease but prescribes the wrong medication. And so the cycle continues...
For the proper solution to the problems enumerated by MGTOWs, please see my upcoming follow-up post, MGTOW part II. And even more importantly, for anyone who may be interested in joining MGTOW, please feel free to contact me directly for an alternative option at JoshuavanAsakinda@gmail.com.
~ Joshua van Asakinda
4 August, 2018