We all fall down.
It may sound strange, but the full realization of this fundamental truth would solve probably half the problems we struggle with every day. Because most of our dissatisfaction with our lives surrounds a misunderstanding of reality: We think that our value as individuals derives from our success rather than from the meaning of the mission we dedicate ourselves to. When our mission has meaning, success is of secondary concern; when our mission is meaningful, we find fulfillment in the work rather than in whether or not the work is "successful." After all, who defines "success?"
Most of us never even consider what success really means to us- and that is another source of trouble...
Generally speaking, we all want to be "happy," but few of us ever stop to ask ourselves what "happiness" looks like. This would be like somebody asking us where we want to go, and we respond, "Somewhere nice." Well, wonderful, but that answer is useless in determining where specifically we should journey to. And in life, when we lack a definite destination, we tend to end up in all sorts of places we never intended to end up.
If we do not know what success looks like to us, we should not at all be surprised when we do not achieve it.
So how do we avoid this mistake? How do we avoid ending up somewhere we never intended to end up?
I have distilled the solution down to three steps:
Of course, theory and praxis are two very different things, and nothing is ever so simple as it seems on paper. Sometimes we need somebody to lead us through the problem. But that is what ParaBellum was created for, after all.
~ Joshua van Asakinda