The relationship between man and woman is the foundation upon which all civilization is dependent. When this relationship fails, civilization fails, for it is only by means of this relationship that human beings are capable not only of continuing the species, but also of cultivating what is noblest in their children. This and only this prevents mankind from descending back into a condition of near-perpetual savagery. And it is for this reason that marriage is considered sacred in all traditions, whether European or Oriental, and that it must not be violated if humanity is to flourish.
This relationship is complementary in nature, and maximizes the distinct potentials of both male and female psychology. Men are leaders by nature; compared to women, men display higher levels of aggression, lower levels of risk aversion, more strategic and tactical modes of cognition, and naturally self-organize into hierarchies, which are more efficient in responding to crisis than more democratic systems of organization. Women, however, are more nurturing, and tend to excel in positions of support; women show higher levels of communication throughout their life span, empathize better than men, are far more concerned with fairness and similar notions, and thus tend to normalize a social system that if left entirely up to men would never attain any lasting condition of stability. In short, men seek out what is new while women tend to strengthen what is already established.
It should come as no surprise that explorers and adventurers have almost universally been men. This has been the case not only in the physical realm but in the psychological realm as well: The greatest religious leaders in history have been men; the greatest thinkers in philosophy and physics have been men; the greatest creators, whether poet or musician, whether artist or architect, have all been men. However, this need to break boundaries and to transgress into forbidden territory is not only positive; it is negative as well. For it is by nature a destabilizing power.
No matter what feminists would have us believe, the lack of women in the foreground of human history has not been due to oppression; women merely have a tendency towards support roles, which, though not as glamorous, are no less necessary to the preservation of the species. In the old world, it was well known that when a man reached a certain age, he must marry; it is not healthy for a man to be without a woman for too long, nor for a woman to be without a man. Marriage helps men to "settle down," and thus be more productive, not only for himself and his family, but for society in general. So we should not be shocked that so many of the great men in history did not find their greatness until they were married.
Young men are volatile. Without the structure and discipline learned only from a father (or by a surrogate father-figure), and without the subsequent calming influence of a good woman, men have a tendency of going off the rails- and this is no small problem. For, compared to women, men show higher rates of violence, higher rates of gang involvement, higher rates of alcoholism and drug abuse of all kinds, higher rates of both homicide and suicide, higher rates of homelessness, higher rates of risk-taking behavior, higher rates of early death, and on and on and on. Moreover, these problems are exacerbated in the children of single mothers, who show increased rates of a wide range of psychiatric disorders and who have generally lower levels of success in all aspects of life, whether male and female (a phenomenon that, incidentally, is not found in the children of single fathers). Taken all together, the data very clearly shows that there is no aspect of the modern world more damaging to human health and happiness than the destruction of the natural family.
The destruction of manhood is the destruction of civilization, for it is manhood that pushes society towards excellence. However, in absence of a normalizing counterweight, this very striving results in chaos. And it is womanhood, through empathy and that concern for interaction between individuals so typical of female psychology, that socially normalizes the striving of men. Male psychology is control-oriented while female psychology is support-oriented, and through the interplay between these two tendencies, the perpetuation of civilization becomes a real and distinct possibility- and only through that interplay.
The male, in absence of the female, becomes a monster of ego, destroying even as he creates, and with little thought for the consequences. Strangely enough, he considers this recklessness a net positive gain. This explains why dictators throughout history, whom have been almost universally male, more often than not view themselves as bringers of order rather than breakers of order; they have a kind of masculine myopia, for their emotional isolation makes it impossible for them to step outside themselves and see the world as it truly is. The female, however, in absence of the male, fares no better, for the female ego, though admittedly less aggressive, makes up for that seeming limitation by being far more emotionally exploitative. As psychologists will attest to, the passive-aggression typical of females is no less harmful to individuals than the overt aggression of males, though it is often more subtle, and thus less likely to be called out.
The same ego-maniacism that reveals itself in the male desire for power, women, and money, reveals itself just as well in the female desire for suitors, material possessions, and likes on social media. And these two diverging behaviors are equally disastrous at the cultural level, for society requires, if it is to sustain itself, rational citizens both male and female, each of which is willing to complement the skill set of the other for the betterment of one another. Any other scenario is doomed to failure, which is why the preservation of the natural family is without doubt the most pressing concern in the world today, and why its systematic destruction is more dangerous than any other existential threat. So if we are to ensure a future for humanity, we must do so one man and one woman at a time.
~ Joshua van Asakinda
26 March, 2018